Bdsm-definations

June is considered the pride month and BDSM community. The pride month is associated with the LGBT Community. Although that stands true that is not what the pride month is all about. The pride month is about taking pride in who we are.

It is about us accepting it and the ones around us to respect it. It is about accepting one’s sexuality without any discrimination of who they are, because at the heart of this all is love. And it doesn’t matter who we love because love is powerful enough to overcome all obstacles and hurdles, if it’s true.

Coming back to pride month,

just like the LGBT community is the BDSM community. Just like how a lot of people believe that being gay or of a certain sexual orientation, is a choice, which isn’t true and is something that a person is born with and doesn’t necessarily have a control over it, a lot of people also believe that practicing BDSM is also a choice. While that may be true for some people, it is not true for everyone.

LGBT Vs BDSM

Being Kinky, Normal Vanilla Couple

Being kinky, for a lot of people is natural just like one’s sexual preferences. They are born with that urge to do things differently than the normal vanilla couple. And a lot of people don’t even realise that they are different until they see or read something that makes them hot.

For a lot of people, being kinky is the way of life. They know of no other way, and they don’t realise it until they experience something that a lot of people think might be weird, or something that is plain vanilla and they realise that they are not having fun while doing it.

What is BDSM

What is BDSM?

BDSM is an overlaying acronym to Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. BDSM according to a lot of people means spanking someone raw or hitting them with various instruments until they cry. Which is not true. BDSM includes a lot more things than just that.

While there are people who practice pure Sadism and Masochism, the numbers are very small in comparison to the whole community. In fact a lot of people can’t actually tolerate that much pain. BDSM is actually an umbrella for a lot of things.

Anything that is not vanilla comes under BDSM. In fact a lot of people follow it without actually realising that they are a part of the community.

Think of it as people liking sweets.

A lot of people either like sweets or they don’t. But it’s not that black & white. There is a curve of graph where on one end there are people who like all kinds of sweets and on its opposite end are the ones who don’t like any kinds of sweets which are both very limited.

The majority of people lie on the curve. There are people who like only coconut sweets and there are people who would anything but coconut sweets. There are people who only eat chocolate. Then there are people who only eat dark chocolate and dislike all other types of chocolate. Then there are people who don’t eat chocolate at all.

Similarly, the more the flavours, the more the options, the more the variety in preference. But all these people still come under people who eat sweets even if it is only one single sweet that they ever eat.

Similarly, there is a curve in the BDSM community as well.

There are very limited people who are purely vanilla unlike what a lot of people believe. The ones who watch porn to get off are also a part of the BDSM community as watching someone get off is a part of voyeurism. There are also very little population who are true BDSM followers.

Most of the community lies along the curve.

Sakina Motiwala

By Sakina Motiwala

I am a Journalism Student who loves listening to English Pop and reading fantasy books. I have had a love for writing since 8th grade, and now that I have an opportunity, I will be doing exactly that.

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